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25 Ways to Cultivate Everyday Happiness

28 Jun

“The present moment is filled with joy and happiness. If you are attentive, you will see it.”

Zen Master – Thich Nhat Hanh

Happiness grows when we nurture our needs, gather glimmers, and string together many joy filled moments. Happiness definitely isn’t an end point. It requires protecting our patch, propagating pleasures, digging for delights and sprinkling contentment and high quality content into our days. Here’s 25 ways. I hope they inspire, motivate and add enrichment.

  1. Make a love list. Look within and make a check list of what’s missing, longed for, needed and wanted. What would we love to have, or experience that would bring greater joy and contentment?
  2. Be a curious observer. Explore what others are doing that looks and feels uplifting, purposeful and appealing. 
  3. Meditate and be self reflective. Aim for a life that feels more intentional, pleasurable, calm and compassionate, and filled with deeper meaning.
  4. Explore interests and passions at every spare opportunity.
  5. Glimmer hunt because micro-moments of joy, calm, peace and safety help regulate our nervous system. 
  6. Be thankful and express gratitude for at least three things each day. Look for heart warming experiences. Let’s count our blessings and implement gratitude rituals.
  7. Be kind to ourselves and others. The brain is always listening and responding to threat and safety, real or perceived. Becoming more aware of the nature of our thoughts and self talk, is a game changer. Make sure the majority is soothing, kind and encouraging.
  8. Reminisce. Take a walk down memory lane. Look at old photos and tune into positive memories to conjure up happy feelings.
  9. Smile more often because it can actually change the way we feel, regardless of why we are smiling. When we smile, certain facial muscles contract, signaling the brain to release feel good endorphins, dopamine, and serotonin. 
  10. Savor good experiences. When we mindfully pay attention, we intensify positive feelings that arise and move memory from short-term to long-term storage. It counteracts the negativity bias, enhances mood, and boosts satisfaction. 
  11. Notice the things that are going right. Notice what is good. Praise and affirm. Tell others when we are happy. Share stories. Spread good news. 
  12. Seek wonder! Really take in the beauty of nature. Be thankful for the shade the trees offer. Allow birdsong to fill the soul. Take time to dream and imagine shapes in the clouds. Get up in the middle of the night and marvel at how beautiful our night sky is.
  13. Spend quality time with friends, children, flora and fauna.
  14. Indulge in small pleasures.  Enjoy coffee in a cafe. Munch on a cookie. Dissolve a sliver of chocolate on your tongue. Read a magazine. Soak up a patch of sunshine. 
  15. Stimulate the senses. Listen to uplifting music. Smell a sensational scent. Look at incredible art. Eat something crunchy. Feel fabulous fabrics. 
  16. Finish what you start. Make lists and tick things off. Completion is rewarding. When we recognize all the good habits we slot into our day, we create emotional lift. 
  17. Aim for comfort and contentment. Fresh sheets. Fresh air. Soft pillows. Friendship.
  18. Giggle more.
  19. Simplify things. Improve sleep. Remove clutter and organize physical and digital spaces.
  20. Make and take time out every day. Aim for quality solitude, sanctuary and stillness.
  21. Get more high quality connection. Spend time with people who are inspiring, uplifting and supportive. Stay away from toxicity, gossip, unnecessary competitiveness and negativity as much as possible. 
  22. Engage in meaningful activities. Donate. Volunteer. Give. Teach something. Learn something new. Show kindness to the environment.
  23. Exercise. Move, walk, dance, and wiggle and jiggle. Even a little bit of exercise produces a happiness boost. 
  24. Overcome challenges. Manage stress, set achievable goals, and seek support from safe people.
  25. Get enchanted, aim for enrichment and stay open to fresh experiences. Take part in cultural activities. Try new things. Plan an adventure, go to a concert, try a new recipe, grow vegetables, take a workshop. Learn. Explore. Connect.

2023. Resolutions Are Out. Replenishing Self Care Is In.

31 Dec

If you’re scanning the horizon looking for the latest emotional wellbeing trends, the predictions will come as a welcome surprise for the exhausted amongst us.

It seems that constantly trying to make sense of what’s been happening in a world filled with uncertainty, unrest and upheaval has meant we’ve spent way too much time doom scrolling and over thinking. We’ve been like meerkats on high alert, constantly bracing our brains and bodies against the storm, causing resilience fatigue.

Emotional stress depletes us and calm revives us. We need timeout to lower our heart rate and blood pressure, to calm our tummies and relax our muscles. We need to find stillness to settle everything down, to breathe easier and to soften. It’s time to surrender, to find places to vanish into, to swan about in, and if that means spending more time in our bathtub dressed as a merperson, eating plant based ice cream listening to music, so be it. It seems we are all so over having to be strong that we’re more than ready to welcome in these stress banishing S words for 2023.

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Same Storm. Different Boat.

22 Apr

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While Mahatma Gandhi once said Dignity of human nature requires that we must face the storms of life, this present storm, the way we face it and the impact it will have on each and every one of us, will be incredibly diverse. 

In the midst of disruption, there are commonalities. Heightened reactions, moments of confusion and clarity, and concern for safety and security. Human nature dictates we do what we can to save ourselves and then look around to offer a (socially distanced) helping hand. 

We react in a thousand different ways because how we think, feel, act, need, want, hate, love and believe, stem from a huge variety of factors from our past experience, our resilience, the extent of support we have available, the size of our bank account, to where we’re positioned physically, socially, economically and emotionally.

While some may have anchored calmly, and others adjusted their sails towards rainbows and pots of gold, we cannot underestimate the emotional gale and financial swirl that this storm has brought upon many. Continue reading

Kindness is Cool.

14 Apr

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Do your little bit of good where you are; it’s those little bits of good put together that overwhelms the world. Desmond Tutu.

In these uncertain times, acts of kindness, gentle words, praise, encouragement, warm smiles, considerate behaviours, helpfulness and thoughtfulness are more important than ever.

Co-operating with lockdown rules is an act of united kindness. We’re all in this together,  doing our bit, for the greater good.

Kindness not only magically lifts the spirits of those giving and receiving, but even onlookers to kindness have increased levels of the happiness hormone in their brain.

We can be of service to humanity in many different sized ways. It doesn’t have to Continue reading

Rest. Relax. Recharge.

5 Apr

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If we want to live a wholehearted life, we have to become intentional about cultivating rest and play, and we must work to let go of exhaustion as a status symbol and productivity as self worth. Brene Brown.

Rest is when we shift from deliberate and effort filled thinking, to a more effortless, playful, peaceful, aimless wandering and daydreaming state.

Rest lowers our heart rate, stress and shoulders.

One of the most interesting things about rest is that it’s usually about carving out a wee chunk of solitary time, versus relaxing, which is able to be done in the Continue reading

Tend and Befriend. Why Being Kind to Yourself Matters.

29 Mar

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Think of the last time someone criticized you, put you down, expressed disapproval or treated you poorly. Don’t linger on it though, because chances are it wasn’t very motivational or uplifting. Why? Because it’s demoralizing, elevates stress hormones, increases emotional reactivity, robs us of peace of mind and greatly reduces the quality of our day.

How dare they right? Well, how dare we do it to ourselves either! It’s like choosing a punishment over a reward.

In this unprecedented time we may have a lot more time by ourselves and Continue reading

7 Ways To Begin To Renovate Your Life.

14 Mar

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Circling Horses by Cassia Beck

If life feels stale around the edges, a lot of stuff is going wrong, others are being critical and competitive, friendships seem to be falling to the curb like flies, and normal activities begin to feel like swimming through thick fog, it could to time to change things up.

Often people will grin and bear it, grit their teeth, grind their teeth at night, and push on regardless, which is fine for a short time, just not a long time as it can compound the difficulties. Sometimes what we resist persists. When negativity outweighs positivity and it’s closing in on you from the outside and you have taken personal responsibility, searched deep within and tried many things that just aren’t working, or no one is listening or supporting you, or worse still blaming you, close the door and open another. Sometimes it’s actually not your fault. Sometimes you wake up and realise that you aren’t surrounded by your tribe. Or you realise that your shine and sparkle is being dulled in order to make someone else feel more adequate. Step away from determination and move closer to joy. Continue reading

Who Is The Fairest Of Them All?

19 Sep

 

Snow White. (Thanks Gabrielle Laubscher for the photo of your princess.)

Snow White. (Thanks Gabrielle Laubscher  for the photo of your princess.)

 

You are of course!

I forced myself to watch an episode of “botched up bodies” to remind myself  just how rotten the consequences can be when people become repulsed with what they deem to be unacceptable about themselves.

For some, there is still such intense pressure to conform to an ideal standard of beauty. It’s everywhere. Even in the fruit aisle at the supermarket. If it’s too organic looking with a lump or a bump or a spot, out it goes. Most times it doesn’t even get to go on display even though it’s bursting with deliciousness.

It seems so villanous to banish anyone worth loving because they might have flabby arms, a jelly belly, a bald head, or a flailing bank balance.

I hope that we can all learn to be more gentle, more accommodating, and place less emphasis on beauty and begin to celebrate other important things that reside within, like talent, smartness and wisdom.

What do you think? Does there seem to be an increased demand or pressure for people and things to be more perfect and how do you feel about it?

10 Ways To Feel Better About Yourself.

27 Jun

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1. Exude confidence

2. Practice serenity

3. Make room for the divine

4. Melt away your troubles in candle-lit baths or fragrant showers

5. Sniff wildflowers

6. Speak your truth often, even if your voice shakes

7. Throw out your raggedy undies, gowns and cloaks

8. Don’t make assumptions

9. Laugh heartily

10. Nurture  your creativity

Have a fabulous fun Friday! I would love to know what you love to do to feel better.

Pre Christmas Snippet Of Peace.

20 Dec

Giggles the pig.

Giggles the pig.