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How about introducing a new self reflective ritual into your family? As the year winds down it’s the perfect time to choose an evening or afternoon to gather together and consider things like: How was the past year? What worked and what did not work so well? What do I want to create in the year to come? 

Set the scene, make some popcorn, pour your drinks, ditch all interruptions and distractions and choose one person to ask the questions. Each one of you gets to answer one question as best as you can, without discussion, feedback, justification or defence, and then you move onto the next question. The rules are to listen and speak with respect, kindness and honesty. It’s not the time to judge or argue. Afterwards feel free to make notes for yourself and then, if you want, open it up to a great discussion and planning session for the upcoming year.

1. What was the best day of your year?
2. What was the worst or hardest day?
3. What’s your fondest memory from the year?
4. What filled you with wonder and delight?
5. What if anything, may have consistently angered you this year?
6. What do you wish had never happened?
7. Name something that went really well.
8. Name something that could’ve gone better.
9. Who do you wish you could’ve spent more time with?
10. Who do you wish you could’ve spent less time with?
11. What is the best thing about being part of this family?
12. What goals did you set at the beginning of the year that you achieved?
13. Which goals didn’t you achieve that you still might like to?
14. What was the nicest thing you remember anyone saying about you?
15. Did you make any mistakes that in turn taught you something?
16. Are there any areas where you feel stuck?
17. What might you need help with?
18. Which world culture is the most fascinating to you right now?
19. What’s your best quality or super power?
20. What has challenged you in the world of social media?
21. How you feel about the boundaries you have set for yourself around screen time?
22. What habits would you like to break?
23. What might you need to do in order to take better care of yourself?
24. What acts of kindness did you show towards others this year?
25. Who was especially kind to you?
26. What are you most proud of having done emotionally this year?
27. What are you most proud of achieving physically this year?
28. What have you longed for lately?
29. What was your biggest achievement this year?
30. What did you do creatively that you loved?
31. What boundary did you set with yourself that you feel proud of?
32. What boundary did you set with others that you’re proud of?
33. What’s your biggest regret this year?
34. What has caused you the most sadness?
35. Is there anything you think you should/could let go of?
36. Name someone you look up to.
37. If you couldn’t fail, what might you attempt?
38. What country would you most like to visit next?
39. What skill or talent did you learn or master?
40. What would you like to be better at?
41. What might you need to do in order to be better at that?
42. What would you like us to do to help you with that?
43. What was the most delicious meal you ate all year?
44. If you could pick something you would love to have made for you, what would you like?
45. If you could have dinner with anyone in the world who would it be?
46. Who would you especially like to thank this year?
47. What is your favourite family tradition?
48. What’s your best quality?
49. What do you wish we understood better about you?
50. If we could wave a magic wand and wish you the best year ever for yourself next year, what sorts of things might you wish for?

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