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Reflect. Review. Revise.

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Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes. Carl Jung.

A bit of soul-searching never goes amiss for those of us who like an opportunity for personal development.

Surfing and forest bathing are excellent contemplation activities but it’s another week until we can splash and wander so why not unplug, switch off autopilot, seek solitude and from a curious standpoint, reflect on what has happened to us, the world, those we love, and our place within all of it.

When we explore and process our experience, we gain a new appreciation and understanding of who we are, what we Continue reading →

Tags: contemplation, corona virus emotional wellbeing, covid19, how to emotionally manage isolation, Introspection, self reflection, Therapy

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Categories Counselling, Covid-19, Health, Mindfulness, Save the World, Self-care

Stay Strong & Trust The Wait.

19 Apr

The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy. Martin Luther King Jr.

The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it open. Arnold Glasow.

Tags: acceptance, corona virus emotional wellbeing, courage, covid19, determination, embrace the now, focus, patience, Resilience, stay in the bubble, stay strong, trust the wait

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Categories Covid-19, Health, Resilience, Save the World, Self-care

Believe In Magic.

17 Apr

Wisdom whispers calmly. It sometimes appears as emotional or physical sensations in our body. When we purposefully look and ask the universe for guidance, answers can show up as synchronicity and co-incidence. Whispers speak from our unconscious and they surface in our nightly dreams. Whispers contain solutions to our questions and they allow our daydreams to bubble to the surface.

Throw all of those meaningful messages into a cauldron. Mix in a dash of intuition, add a dose of practicality, and stir well until clarity appears. Boil down until decisive choices that stem from a deeper knowing emerge, and you will Continue reading →

Tags: angel guidance, believe in magic, caring for yourself in lockdown, corona virus emotional wellbeing, covid19, dream therapy, finding direction, guardian angels, higher power, how to emotionally manage isolation, intuition, magic, spirit messages, universal guidance, whispers of wisdom

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Categories Angels, New beginnings, Self-care, Spiritual Journey

Tame Your Thoughts.

15 Apr

Right now, more than ever, there are a lot of people experiencing turbulent thoughts that they describe as “having a hold over them.”

Our usual thoughts keep us pretty busy as it is, but lately it’s the catastrophic thoughts of future scenarios that appear to be running wild, egging on restlessness, confusion and anxiety.

Here’s what I want you to know. Thoughts may seem like they come from outside of us, but they actually come from inside us. We’re in control of what we think. Let’s not give thoughts a power that they don’t have. Thoughts don’t choose us. We choose them.

A situation in itself doesn’t create overwhelm or panic, only your thoughts about Continue reading →

Tags: catastrophizing, corona virus emotional wellbeing, covid19, goodness influencer, how to emotionally manage isolation, how to stop overthinking, overthinking, overwhelm, reducing anxiety, taming thoughts, therapist, thinking and feeling

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Categories Counselling, Covid-19, Health, Mindfulness, Save the World, Self-care

Just Ride it Out.

13 Apr

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When the waves of life crash down on you, pick yourself up, get ready for the next one, and ride it like you own it!

Tags: corona virus emotional wellbeing, Covid-19, Easter Monday, how to emotionally manage isolation, Just ride it out, patience

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Categories Covid-19, Health, Holiday celebrations, Resilience, Save the World, Self-care

Hold on to Hope.

12 Apr

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It’s an Easter Sunday like no other. We’re on Day 18 of lockdown, and our Prime Minister, Jacinda Ardern gave a great message of hope to the nation, granting the Easter Bunny (along with the Tooth Fairy) essential worker status. It was a moment of light hearted loveliness which made the chocolate loving children of New Zealand squeal with delight.

Hope allows us to believe there’s an illuminated pathway leading to a more desirable outcome.

Hope is a magic dispeller of despair.

Hope cheers us on somewhat, encouraging us to go the distance.

Don’t be surprised if it feels a little tough coming into the third week. The mundaneness and lack of pick me ups can make it a bit boring and lacking in the joy department. Rather than critically overly examining or picking our lives to pieces, it’s more spirit lifting to mix things up a bit, add pops of fun, and look to add Continue reading →

Tags: corona virus emotional wellbeing, Easter, Easter Bunny, goodness influencer, Hold on to hope, Hope, Jacinda Ardern, therapist

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Categories Covid-19, Holiday celebrations, Self-care

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Stay Safe in Your Bubble.

11 Apr

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Categories Boundaries, Compassion, Covid-19, Health, Save the World, Self-care

Calm is a Superpower.

9 Apr

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If someone is baiting you to argue, don’t take the hook. Swim around and find a calm, creative response rather than a reaction. Leanne French. Secret 59 from Fairytale Love – How to Love Happily Ever After.

Someone’s got to do it, so why not you?

Don’t jump to the conclusion that what’s going on has to be about you.
Stay focused on content that makes sense, and try to ignore emotional outbursts.
Be willing to check whether they are stressed or tired, and ask how you could make things better.
Change the mood of the conversation and trick them into escaping.

We control how we respond.

When we take our time to go within we can respond to the same event with annoyance or anger, or we can search for a more thoughtful way to respond with peace and calmness. Continue reading →

Tags: calm is a superpower, Covid-19, goodness influencer, how to avoid arguments, how to emotionally manage isolation, reducing conflict, therapist

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Categories Conflict resolution, Counselling, Covid-19, Health, Mindfulness, Raising children, Relationship advice, Save the World, Self-care

Hang in There.

7 Apr

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Most of us have had a time or two or three in our lives where a situation bought us crashing to our knees, and everything changed in an instant.

When we couldn’t calm the storm, it passed. When we thought the fear and the flow of tears would never stop, they actually did. When our castles crumbled, they got rebuilt. When our scars healed, they were stronger than skin.

Events may differ, but those that hold the potential to disrupt life as we know it, need acceptance and require us to control the parts we can and let go of what we can’t.

Hanging in requires time to pass. For patience and co-operation. For feelings to be Continue reading →

Tags: corona virus emotional wellbeing, covid19, Facing feelings, goodness influencer, how to emotionally manage isolation, Resilience, therapist

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Categories Covid-19, Health, New beginnings, Resilience, Save the World, Self-care

Dig Deep.

6 Apr

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Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. Victor Frankl.

While I’m not asking you to carefully craft all of your conversations, if you’re finding it challenging being confined in closer circumstances for longer periods of time than you are used to, and conflict is causing concern, it could be beneficial to learn how to respond rather than react. Especially if you want to create a more emotionally comforting bubble to hang out in.

Choosing our response is about making sure it’s calm, considered, conscious and in line with our core values. It’s driven by wanting to get the best out of a situation for ourselves and others. Responding is more about actively taking our time to work out what Continue reading →

Tags: Choosing how we respond in a crisis, communication in confinement, corona virus emotional wellbeing, covid19, goodness influencer, Relationship rescue, Respond rather than react, therapist