The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy. Martin Luther King Jr.
The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it open. Arnold Glasow.
Right now, more than ever, there are a lot of people experiencing turbulent thoughts that they describe as “having a hold over them.”
Our usual thoughts keep us pretty busy as it is, but lately it’s the catastrophic thoughts of future scenarios that appear to be running wild, egging on restlessness, confusion and anxiety.
Here’s what I want you to know. Thoughts may seem like they come from outside of us, but they actually come from inside us. We’re in control of what we think. Let’s not give thoughts a power that they don’t have. Thoughts don’t choose us. We choose them.
A situation in itself doesn’t create overwhelm or panic, only your thoughts about Continue reading
Do your little bit of good where you are; it’s those little bits of good put together that overwhelms the world. Desmond Tutu.
In these uncertain times, acts of kindness, gentle words, praise, encouragement, warm smiles, considerate behaviours, helpfulness and thoughtfulness are more important than ever.
Co-operating with lockdown rules is an act of united kindness. We’re all in this together, doing our bit, for the greater good.
Kindness not only magically lifts the spirits of those giving and receiving, but even onlookers to kindness have increased levels of the happiness hormone in their brain.
We can be of service to humanity in many different sized ways. It doesn’t have to Continue reading
When the waves of life crash down on you, pick yourself up, get ready for the next one, and ride it like you own it!
If someone is baiting you to argue, don’t take the hook. Swim around and find a calm, creative response rather than a reaction. Leanne French. Secret 59 from Fairytale Love – How to Love Happily Ever After.
Someone’s got to do it, so why not you?
We control how we respond.
When we take our time to go within we can respond to the same event with annoyance or anger, or we can search for a more thoughtful way to respond with peace and calmness. Continue reading
If the light within you is greater than the darkness around you, you are a star. Matshona Dhliwayo.
The full, ‘pink’ super moon which just so happens to be the brightest and boldest of the year, is not the only thing with the power to illuminate. We can all be light filled agents of change who spread love, generosity and kindness into the world.
Let’s brighten our day by peeking into the positives.
Most of us have had a time or two or three in our lives where a situation bought us crashing to our knees, and everything changed in an instant.
When we couldn’t calm the storm, it passed. When we thought the fear and the flow of tears would never stop, they actually did. When our castles crumbled, they got rebuilt. When our scars healed, they were stronger than skin.
Events may differ, but those that hold the potential to disrupt life as we know it, need acceptance and require us to control the parts we can and let go of what we can’t.
Hanging in requires time to pass. For patience and co-operation. For feelings to be Continue reading
Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. Victor Frankl.
While I’m not asking you to carefully craft all of your conversations, if you’re finding it challenging being confined in closer circumstances for longer periods of time than you are used to, and conflict is causing concern, it could be beneficial to learn how to respond rather than react. Especially if you want to create a more emotionally comforting bubble to hang out in.
Choosing our response is about making sure it’s calm, considered, conscious and in line with our core values. It’s driven by wanting to get the best out of a situation for ourselves and others. Responding is more about actively taking our time to work out what Continue reading
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