Tag Archives: lockdown

Wherever You Go, There You Are.

27 Mar

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The government have asked for our support to protect New Zealand and eradicate COVID-19. An important restriction has been put in place, stay home, save lives and no surprises, two days in and the usual suspects have gone a little wild, flaunting the rules and looking for loopholes.

We often hope that others will think, behave, react and respond the way we do, but it doesn’t always work that way. Some of the rules are bound to get a little tighter when people who don’t like to be told what to do, go about their business, their way. They are just being who they are, but when the consequences affect the collective, it doesn’t resonate well.

Humans are complex cognitive creatures who filter information through past experiences, conditioning and values. We are prone to adopting beliefs about ourselves and the world in ways that make what we do seem as justifiable as possible. To justify is to prove that actions are reasonable or right. This doesn’t mean they are.

So what to do?

  • follow the rules and stay in the bubble
  • take it seriously and think of the health of all our country
  • we cannot change the circumstances, but we can be mindful about how we interpret the rules
  • don’t waste your time fighting the opinions or rule twisting of others, leave the policing to the experts but do tell them if they are putting you at risk
  • keep doing a great job and know that the life you save might also be your own.

 

Wherever you go there you are is the title of one of my favourite mindfulness books by Jon Kabat-Zinn.

 

 

 

Ease into Uncertainty.

26 Mar

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Our NZ government declared a State of Emergency, and our current COVID-19 Alert Level is Level 4 also known as lockdown which is in place for four weeks or more. In summary, this means

  • Everyone must now stay home, except those providing essential services.
  • Only make physical contact with those that you live with.

It’s a normal, universal feeling to feel fear when faced with the unknown. As our news feeds fill with all kinds of stories, real, fake and funny, the reality is that 738 people died in one day in Spain yesterday, and 683 in Italy. It is vital that we all do our best to stick to the rules put in place to save lives and flatten the curve. The more careful we are, the sooner this thing will be over.

As a therapist, relationship expert and goodness influencer with 30 years of experience I’m here to help ease the possible psychological effects of these times. One of the first things to know is that unexpected and unforeseen events can cause a grief response which can take people off guard, especially when our daily lives have been full of work, social interactions, distractions, takeouts, and the freedom to move around however we want.

Everyone experiences grief differently.

  • It’s not linear, and it’s not predictable.
  • Don’t run from your emotions but do relax and regroup and don’t let them overwhelm you.
  • Know that confusion, sadness and anger in a time of change jumps around a bit while we all redefine our new normal.
  • Reassure yourself that each stage is normal and won’t last forever.
  • Take time to ease into what all of the changes you are faced with might mean to you.
  • Know that you don’t have to work it all out on Day One.

For reliable information on Level 4 go to https://covid19.govt.nz/government-actions/covid-19-alert-level/

If you want me to write about something specific, I welcome your questions. Stay safe. Much love.