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25 Ways to Cultivate Everyday Happiness

28 Jun

“The present moment is filled with joy and happiness. If you are attentive, you will see it.”

Zen Master – Thich Nhat Hanh

Happiness grows when we nurture our needs, gather glimmers, and string together many joy filled moments. Happiness definitely isn’t an end point. It requires protecting our patch, propagating pleasures, digging for delights and sprinkling contentment and high quality content into our days. Here’s 25 ways. I hope they inspire, motivate and add enrichment.

  1. Make a love list. Look within and make a check list of what’s missing, longed for, needed and wanted. What would we love to have, or experience that would bring greater joy and contentment?
  2. Be a curious observer. Explore what others are doing that looks and feels uplifting, purposeful and appealing. 
  3. Meditate and be self reflective. Aim for a life that feels more intentional, pleasurable, calm and compassionate, and filled with deeper meaning.
  4. Explore interests and passions at every spare opportunity.
  5. Glimmer hunt because micro-moments of joy, calm, peace and safety help regulate our nervous system. 
  6. Be thankful and express gratitude for at least three things each day. Look for heart warming experiences. Let’s count our blessings and implement gratitude rituals.
  7. Be kind to ourselves and others. The brain is always listening and responding to threat and safety, real or perceived. Becoming more aware of the nature of our thoughts and self talk, is a game changer. Make sure the majority is soothing, kind and encouraging.
  8. Reminisce. Take a walk down memory lane. Look at old photos and tune into positive memories to conjure up happy feelings.
  9. Smile more often because it can actually change the way we feel, regardless of why we are smiling. When we smile, certain facial muscles contract, signaling the brain to release feel good endorphins, dopamine, and serotonin. 
  10. Savor good experiences. When we mindfully pay attention, we intensify positive feelings that arise and move memory from short-term to long-term storage. It counteracts the negativity bias, enhances mood, and boosts satisfaction. 
  11. Notice the things that are going right. Notice what is good. Praise and affirm. Tell others when we are happy. Share stories. Spread good news. 
  12. Seek wonder! Really take in the beauty of nature. Be thankful for the shade the trees offer. Allow birdsong to fill the soul. Take time to dream and imagine shapes in the clouds. Get up in the middle of the night and marvel at how beautiful our night sky is.
  13. Spend quality time with friends, children, flora and fauna.
  14. Indulge in small pleasures.  Enjoy coffee in a cafe. Munch on a cookie. Dissolve a sliver of chocolate on your tongue. Read a magazine. Soak up a patch of sunshine. 
  15. Stimulate the senses. Listen to uplifting music. Smell a sensational scent. Look at incredible art. Eat something crunchy. Feel fabulous fabrics. 
  16. Finish what you start. Make lists and tick things off. Completion is rewarding. When we recognize all the good habits we slot into our day, we create emotional lift. 
  17. Aim for comfort and contentment. Fresh sheets. Fresh air. Soft pillows. Friendship.
  18. Giggle more.
  19. Simplify things. Improve sleep. Remove clutter and organize physical and digital spaces.
  20. Make and take time out every day. Aim for quality solitude, sanctuary and stillness.
  21. Get more high quality connection. Spend time with people who are inspiring, uplifting and supportive. Stay away from toxicity, gossip, unnecessary competitiveness and negativity as much as possible. 
  22. Engage in meaningful activities. Donate. Volunteer. Give. Teach something. Learn something new. Show kindness to the environment.
  23. Exercise. Move, walk, dance, and wiggle and jiggle. Even a little bit of exercise produces a happiness boost. 
  24. Overcome challenges. Manage stress, set achievable goals, and seek support from safe people.
  25. Get enchanted, aim for enrichment and stay open to fresh experiences. Take part in cultural activities. Try new things. Plan an adventure, go to a concert, try a new recipe, grow vegetables, take a workshop. Learn. Explore. Connect.

Self Soothing Relieves Distress.

8 Jul

“Within you, there is a stillness and a sanctuary to which you can retreat at any time and be yourself.” – Hermann Hesse.


When our external world changes too rapidly, it can ramp up fear, stress and anxiety. Crammed minds, overwhelm and exhaustion combined with less connection and enjoyment, takes its toll on our nervous system. Shocking experiences, oodles of uncertainty and unexpected events cause acute stress responses in us, and self soothing is the antidote.

Self soothing helps lower cortisol levels, calms our mind, body and gut; resetting, rebalancing and returning us to our felt sense of safety, enabling us to either let go of, or circle back to what we need to pay attention to in a more manageable, emotionally regulated way. It begins with a 30 second pause, longer exhales, a lot of grounding, engaging our five senses, being kinder to ourselves, doing things we love, consciously relaxing and it extends to mindfully not labelling or judging our reactions and feelings so much.

Deepening our engagement and choosing a pleasurable activity that settles our emotions and helps us manage our stressors, gently and compassionately offers relief from distress. When we really look, listen, inhale, taste and touch nice things, we shift our focus away from what’s bothering us. We need to learn to mindfully choose healthy distractions and adaptive coping mechanisms rather than maladaptive ones like sloshing down booze, mindless scrolling and gobbling whole tubs of ice cream.

Ways to self soothe:

  • Place a hand on your heart and close your eyes
  • Practise focused breathing, in for four, out for eight
  • Anchor your mind with an I am safe and all is well affirmation
  • Touch something soft
  • Listen to relaxing sounds
  • Breathe in calming scents
  • Taste something yummy like a warm drink or sparkling water bubbles
  • Give yourself a butterfly hug or stroke your arms
  • Squeeze a stress ball
  • Look out to the horizon
  • Splash cold water on your face
  • Change into comfy clothes
  • Spend time with pets and plants
  • Get lost in a craft or a movie
  • Go to a happy haven in your imagination
  • Look at a photo of someone you love
  • Soak up a patch of sunshine
  • Take a 20 minute walk
  • Watch something that makes you laugh
  • Closely observe an object
  • Immerse and ground yourself in beautiful surroundings
  • Take a warm soak or shower
  • Offer yourself compassionate, kind, reassuring self talk
  • Lie down and do a body scan, muscle relaxing meditation
  • Tense and relax parts of your body that feel tight or uncomfortable
  • Jiggle your legs and rub your hands on your thighs
  • Try making vocal sounds and vibrations 
  • Listen to an uplifting podcast
  • Meditate for ten minutes. Link below.

To feel good we need to do things that are good for us.

Embrace The Journey.

21 Apr

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As you journey down the path, don’t forget to be present moment-by-moment and absorb the beauty and richness of simply being alive. Cary David Richards, The Happiness Habit.

Create Calm.

1 Apr

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It’s one of our basic needs, the need for security, which is triggering fear in many people. Although many things are out of our control, we need to keep working at reducing and releasing fear, panic and anxiety because it over activates our flight-or-fight mode. When we are in what I call Meerkat Mode, our body wants to take constant action. Because present circumstances make that a bit restrictive, it’s possible that the tension that builds as a result of being ready to pounce on problems begins to physically hurt a little. It could also be the reason that people are getting ants in their pants and pushing the boundaries of their bubbles. 

Calming our mind and soothing our system is not a luxury thing to do, it’s vital. It Continue reading

One Day at a Time.

28 Mar

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It’s no wonder that Alcoholics Anonymous emphasize taking things one day at a time, because it helps make difficult changes more manageable.

Feeds are full of how to fill our time, even though some people might be run of their feet busier than usual, but what if you’re still in shock? Or, like me, feeling overwhelmed by the seriousness, not of the illness or isolation as such, but about our future after all of this, which today suddenly felt completely uncertain and a little bleak.

So here’s the thing. Uncertainty involving all-encompassing questions about the meaning and purpose of life and one’s place in the world in the future has an actual name. It’s known as Continue reading

8 Ways To Become More Mindful.

17 Aug

magic in the clouds-photo by Leanne French

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1.    Watch your thoughts come, and then watch them go; just like clouds floating across the sky.

2.   Watch one cloud at a time, and tell yourself how interesting it is to observe that particular cloud.

3.   Breathe and wait for the kinds of thoughts to Continue reading