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In The Jungle, The Mighty Jungle.

There is a common trap that difficult people set for us in the jungle, a trap that we need to slow down enough to recognize, and be courageous enough to deal with in a new way, or it will have us falling right into a hole too deep to dig ourselves out of.

Trap setters don’t do vulnerability. Instead, they do blame and whirling storms of shame. Their behaviours invite avoidance and reactivity and eventual hostility.

Trap setters hide behind overly intense demanding comments such as: Continue reading →

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Categories Bullying, Communication, Relationship advice, Toxic Friendships

Five Ways To Fight Fairly.

5 Oct

Conjure up calmness. Hit your mute button. Press your palms against a hard surface to release tension, count to ten and breathe low and slow into your belly.
Remember why you love each other.
Be willing to see your beloved’s vulnerable self, and come from that place within yourself.
Hear what they have to say with open ears and an open heart rather than defending or justifying your position. Ask this question: What specifically do you need from me in order to feel better?
Manage your words and behaviours. Be absolutely aware of what you could do or say that would escalate the situation or hurt the person, and always choose a respectful reply.
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