Five Ways To Fight Fairly.

1. Conjure up calmness. Hit your mute button. Press your palms against a hard surface to release tension, count to ten and breathe low and slow into your belly.
2. Remember why you love each other.
3. Be willing to see your beloved’s vulnerable self, and come from that place within yourself.
4. Hear what they have to say with open ears and an open heart rather than defending or justifying your position. Ask this question: What specifically do you need from me in order to feel better?
5. Manage your words and behaviours. Be absolutely aware of what you could do or say that would escalate the situation or hurt the person, and always choose a respectful reply.
   

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